One way to keep the children close to their grandparents is of course by telephone. We have unlimited long distance, so the kids know they may call their father or grandparents anytime they wish and may talk as long as they want. This helps keep grandparents up to date on their grandchild’s lives.

Another great way for grandchildren with grandparents who are technically up to date is e-mail or social networks such as Facebook. My kids and my mom all have Facebook and it has been a great way for them to exchange pictures, ideas and just simple, “Hi I love and miss you” messages. With parental supervision, this is a fantastic way to keep closeness.

For grandparents who are computer illiterate, mailing pictures, letters and postcards are the way to go. My ex in-laws love it when my youngest two send them a quick note and a picture they drew or colored just for them. Having their refrigerator decorated with my children’s drawings let’s grandparents know they are loved and not forgotten.

Of course the best way to foster the closeness is the hardest for parents. Allowing for a two week to one month visit is tough. Letting go is the hardest thing I will do this summer. I want to know what they are doing, who they are with and know they are safe, but I must think of my children and their dad’s parents first. As hard as it is for parents, it is a bonding and memory making experience children need. My heart will break and life won’t be the same. My house will be too quiet. I will miss moments of fun, relaxation and excitement with my children, but I will know they are receiving love from family that is essential to their well-being.

As I am crying when they drive away, I will do my best to remember my own grandparents and how important they were and still are to me, cherish the memories I have made and wave good-bye knowing I am doing the right thing.